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I get a lot of emails asking me, “How do I guarantee she will respond?” Or ”What can I do to increase my response rate?” First off, nothing is guaranteed in online dating. Next, it comes down to your profile, pictures and your messages. Without these three things ON POINT, you will not maximize your online dating success. Today, I want to focus on messaging mistakes. Online dating messaging mistakes will kill you. How many emails have you sent to women, without responses? Probably lots. But that’s Ok, I have too! Once you understand the main reasons why she didn’t respond, you’ll be able to perfect your message game and start getting a lot more responses. Let’s look at some common online dating message mistakes:
1. You were rude or too sexual.
A lot of things can turn a girl off, but being rude or too sexual is on top of her list. She’s a woman; don’t try to get her attention by shock value. Don’t use any four letter words, don’t ask her what her favorite position is, don’t ask her if she has any nude photos, and don’t tell her your sexual fantasies. Yes, this does work from time to time but, for the most part she will delete your email.
2. You didn’t get her attention.
You already know attractive, quality women, can receive over fifty messages a day. That is some serious competition. If you don’t get her attention fast, you’ll be lost and she’ll move on without replying. You can get her attention by using a great subject line, actually be interested in her and be FUNNY!
3. You throw up her red flags.
Guys, women don’t want to hear about your baggage and insecurities. She doesn’t want to hear about your ex, problems, addictions. Keep that t to yourself. Also, NEVER email her more than once before she replies. Being needy is not going to change her mind about you.
4. She thinks you are shallow.
Attractive women know guys are contacting them because they think they are hot. You don’t have to broadcast that to her. Don’t ask her for sexier photos, don’t ask for body shots, and don’t tell her what you want to do to her. There are tons of guys already doing that. Don’t be one of them.
5. She’s just not into you.
It seems like a lot of guys can’t seem to get this through their heads. No matter what you do, some girls just aren’t going to be into you. You put your best foot forward, have a great photo, display your personality and value, and she still doesn’t respond? It’s not you, it’s her.